Posts Tagged ‘confidence’

Are you resolute?

Friday, February 12th, 2010

So, here we are six weeks into the new year. How amazing is that. Is it me, or is time going by more quickly these days? Perhaps that’s just what happens as we get older!

Many people start their new year making all sorts of resolutions or promises to themselves. You might have even set yourself some goals to achieve for the coming year.

Is that something that you do every year? Quite often by about this time into the new year, for many people, if they stop and take stock of exactly how they are doing with regard to these resolutions, promises and goals, quite frankly to coin a common teacher’s phrase they ‘could do better’.

We have all these great plans and ideas for how we want things to be different or better at the beginning of the year, but sure isn’t it strange how sometimes there’s a dirty great spanner thrown in the works?

That’ll be your unconscious thinking that whatever you have in mind is  not as good idea as your conscious might have thought. Until you get your unconscious on board, we can say all the things we like, consciously, but in the end, the unconscious is always victorious. Afterall, it is in charge around 90% of the time, you know.

So what do you need to be successful this time; motivation, determination, confidence in your own ability? Maybe you’re not completely sure exactly what you need to do this time, to do things differently.

The good news is that with the right help, you can get your unconscious onboard; find the resources you need; access those strengths, easier than you might have once thought possible. And it just so happens that I have the tools and techniques available to help you make it happen. Click here to go to my NLP information page.

So if you are having a problem keeping to those resolutions, promises and goals, remember that you don’t have to forget about them until next New Year’s Eve. Get in contact and let’s have a chat about how we can get you back on track.

The Problem with Problem Solving

Monday, December 7th, 2009
As I have mentioned before, I receive a weekly email from a great coach, Michael Neill. I received this today and thought it worth sharing with you. With his permission, here it is:
 
 
A couple of weeks ago, a marketing expert was shotgunning me with suggestions about what I needed to do to once people had signed up for Supercoach Academy. After listening to him for awhile, somewhat confused by the array of to-do’s he was putting forward, I asked him why he thought I needed to do all those things.
 
He looked at me curiously. ”To prevent buyer’s remorse – after all, research has shown…”  
What followed was an in-depth explanation of why this was so important, and suddenly I understood why I hadn’t been understanding him.

“The reason this hasn’t been making any sense,” I explained, “is because you’re trying to help me solve a problem I don’t actually have.”

A few days later, a client was explaining to me his concerns about his big break – his first gig in front of over 1000 people.  He wanted tips on how to find the “extra” confidence to make his performance “really, really, really good”.

I told him that I could share tips with him, but what would make the biggest difference was to have fun and not try to make this performance any different to any of the ones he had done that had led to this opportunity.

As I explained it to him, here’s how the problem-solving cycle usually works:

  • Something happens.
    (In this case, he got offered a great gig.)  
  • We imagine all the bad things – “problems” – which might happen as a result of it. 
    (In this case, what would happen if he suddenly lost his nerve in front of all those people and “blew his big chance”.)
  • We then “problem-solve” by doing things to prevent the bad things we’ve imagined from happening.
    (In this case, try to learn confidence tricks and techniques to “ensure” that nothing will go wrong.)

The problem is, apart from the original event, nothing’s actually happened except our over-reaction in the physical world to the problems in our imagination! 

He didn’t quite seem to get what I meant, I told him the following story:

 

Imagine that it’s the Wild West and you are surrounded by hostile Indians. Your only hope is if the cavalry comes to save you. Just as you are about to abandon all hope, you hear hoofbeats in the distance and see a lone rider coming towards you at a gallop.  He pulls up beside you, leans down from his horse, and in a voice dry and crackling from the trail, says “I’ve got some bad news and I’ve got some good news…”"The bad news is that the cavalry’s not coming. The good news is, this isn’t the Wild West and there aren’t any Indians.” 


He laughed, and called me a couple of days later to tell me the gig had gone phenomenally well.  
What can we learn from all this? 
There will never be enough techniques to solve problems that don’t actually exist.

Have fun, learn heaps, and relax… while life will always have its ups and downs, coping with them is inevitably much simpler than you think.

With love,

Michael

www.geniuscatalyst.com

Eating late at night adds weight

Friday, September 4th, 2009

This article comes from the BBC News website could be of interest to anyone watching their weight.
 
By Sudeep Chand
Health reporter, BBC News

 

Late-night snackers are more likely to gain weight, research suggests.

A team from Northwestern University, Illinois, found that when you eat, not just how you eat, could make a big difference.

Scientists found that when mice ate at unusual hours, they put on twice as much weight, despite exercising and eating as much as others.

The study, in the journal Obesity, is said to be the first to show directly that there is a “wrong” time to eat.

 

How or why a person gains weight is very complicated – but it is clearly not just calories in and calories out
Fred Turek
Center for Sleep and Circadian Biology

Recent studies have suggested that circadian rhythms, the body’s internal clock, have a role in how our bodies use up energy. However, this had been difficult to definitively pin down.

Deanna Arble, lead author of the study, said: “One of our research interests is shift workers, who tend to be overweight.

“This got us thinking that eating at the wrong time of day might be contributing to weight gain.”

The experiment looked at two groups of mice over a six-week period. Both groups were fed a high-fat diet, but at different times of the mice “waking cycle”.

One group of mice ate at times when they would normally be asleep. They put on twice as much weight.

This was despite them doing the same level of activity, and eating the same amount of food, as the other mice.

Groundbreaking

The findings may have implications for people worried about their weight.

“How or why a person gains weight is very complicated, but it is clearly not just calories in and calories out,” said Fred Turek, from the Northwestern’s Center for Sleep and Circadian Biology, where the research took place.

“Better timing of meals could be a critical element in slowing the ever-increasing incidence of obesity.”

Tam Fry, from the National Obesity Forum, agreed. He said: “It is groundbreaking. It really gets you thinking why this has not been done before.

“It could be very dramatic if it affects whether you are going to get fat or not.”

At this stage, the results could still be interpreted as controversial when applied to humans.

The scientists now hope they can find out more about how the process works. It is thought that sleep, hormones and body temperature all play a part in how we gain weight.

20 Tips for dealing with life…

Friday, August 7th, 2009

I’m afraid I don’t know the original author, but I unashamedly pinched this from a forum I belong to. It made my chuckle, but think how true some of them are too. What do you think?

1. Remember… Once you get over the hill, you’ll begin to pick up speed.

2. If it weren’t for STRESS I’d have no energy at all.

3. Whatever hits the fan… Will not be evenly distributed.

4. Everyone has a photographic memory. Some, like me, just don’t have any film.

5. I always know… God won’t give me more than I can handle there are times I just wish He didn’t trust me quite so much.

6. Dogs Have Owners ~ Cats Have Staff

7. If the shoe fits… buy a pair in every colour.

8. Never be too open-minded, your brains may fall out.

9. Just going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car..

10. Bills travel through the mail at twice the speed of cheques.

11. If you look like your passport picture… you probably need the trip.

12. Some days are a total waste of makeup.

13. Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Deal with it.

14. A balanced diet is a cookie in each hand.

15. Middle age is when broadness of the mind and narrowness of the waist change places.

16. Opportunities always look bigger going than coming.

17. Junk is something you’ve kept for years and throw away three weeks before you need it.

18. Experience is a wonderful thing. It enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.

19. By the time you can make ends meet, they move the ends.

20. Learn from the mistakes of others. Trust me… you can’t live long enough to make them all yourself. I’ve tried!!

Encouragement improves your game better than criticism, claim scientists

Saturday, May 2nd, 2009

rom The Telegraph website:

The ‘hairdryer’ treatment and criticism may get quick results, but sportsmen respond much better to kinds words of encouragement and support, scientists have found.

By Richard Alleyne, Science Correspondent

Last Updated: 2:35PM BST 01 May 2009

Sportsmen and women could get the edge on their opponents by accepting more emotional support in their personal and professional lives. A study by the University of Exeter, showed the extent to which a sympathetic ear or regular words of encouragement can improve sports performance.

Previous studies have linked ’social support’ to performance in golf and other sports and psychologists are regularly employed to improve performance. But doubts have still remained over its effectiveness – with many still believing that criticism is the best path to results. Now for the first time, researchers claim they have proved it works – at least for golfers – after showing proper emotional support can improve their handicap by nearly two in less than a month.

Dr Paul Freeman said that a player’s game is definitely affected by their frame of mind and negative feedback could have the opposite effect.

“There are times when the hairdryer treatment works but as a general rule positive support is going to have more long term benefits,” he said.

“Over a longer period I definitely think this support is more affective.”

The study, published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, focused on three male golfers, two amateurs and one professional, who all competed at regional, national and international level. For half of the study the golfers were each given regular one-on-one support by Dr Freeman of the University of Exeter.

 Dr Freeman offered a range of support including listening to the golfers as they talked through their problems, offering encouragement and reassurance before competitions, and helping with practical issues, such as organising accommodation during competitions.

To provide comparative data, the researchers looked up the performance of the three golfers prior to the study.

Over 10 games, all three golfers performed better when they were receiving support from Dr Freeman. The players improved by an average of 1.78 shots per round, which could be significant at high-level golf. Dr Freeman said:

“It is significant that the support I offered, as a relative stranger, had such a marked influence on their results.

“The findings suggest that amateur and professional athletes would benefit from seeking social support, whether this is from a friend or family member or even from a professional.”

Overthinking 'disrupts golf putt'

Friday, January 30th, 2009

Just ask Tiger, he’s ‘gone’ when he makes a shot. Find out how cognitive hypnotherapy  and NLP can help reduce your handicap www.anitamitchell.co.uk.

Found on the BBC News website:

Golfers who think too much about their technique between shots could be seriously affecting their performance, a study has suggested.

St Andrews University and US scientists said they had established that too much analysis made the golfer’s game worse.

They said thinking too much about the previous shot can disrupt performance.

In total, 80 golfers were given shots to practise until they got it right. Those who discussed their putting between strokes took twice as long.

The study suggested talking could “overshadow” motor skills Golfers who think too much about their technique between shots could be seriously affecting their performance, a study has suggested. St Andrews University and US scientists said they had established that too much analysis made the golfer’s game worse. They said thinking too much about the previous shot can disrupt performance. In total, 80 golfers were given shots to practise until they got it right. Those who discussed their putting between strokes took twice as long. The study found that when the mix of skilled and novice golfers tried again, those who had discussed the shot took longer to get the shots right as those people who had spent a couple of minutes engaged in other, unrelated activities. Simply describing one’s putting skill after it has been executed can be incredibly disruptive to future putting performance Prof Michael Anderson St Andrews University Psychology Professor Michael Anderson, from St Andrews University, said: “This effect was especially dramatic in skilled golfers who were reduced to the level of performance of novices after just five minutes of describing what they did. “Novices, by contrast, were largely unaffected, and perhaps even helped a little, by verbally describing their movements. “It’s a fairly common wisdom in sport that thinking too much hurts performance; during a game it can be an obvious distraction. “However, what we found surprising is that simply describing one’s putting skill after it has been executed can be incredibly disruptive to future putting performance.” He said overthinking did not seem to affect novices because “they probably haven’t developed enough skills to forget in the first place” and claimed that top professionals would be less susceptible as they were very focused in their approach. The researchers think the loss of performance was due to an effect called verbal overshadowing, which makes the brain focus more on language centres rather than on brain systems that support the skills in question. The study, which also involved the University of Michigan, marks the first time researchers have claimed to demonstrate that verbal overshadowing can adversely affect motor skills. Prof Anderson said the findings may have consequences for people who take part in other sports. “This observation may have repercussions for athletes who depend on effective mental techniques to prepare for events,” he added. “Moreover, those who teach golf, or any motor skill, might be undoing their own talent in the process.”

Lisa Butcher boosts her confidence with Cognitive Hypnotherapy

Thursday, February 21st, 2008

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Lias Butcher is one of the presenters of the BBC’s What Not To Wear. She recently began a new monthly column in the Mail on Sunday magazine, You. In it she reveals that she visited a Quest-trained Cognitive Hypnotherapist to boost her confidence in front of camera.

In her words,“When I started work on What Not To Wear at the BBC, the clothes I wore were important, but that was not enough to give me the confidence I needed. I discovered a solution in cognitive hypnotherapy/ neuro-linguistic programming with the Quest Institute. I went to two sessions and that was enough to build up my strengths and deal with my anxieties.”